Line a baking sheet with foil and grease with butter. Grease a small spoon for scooping the pralines and set aside with the baking sheet.
Add the 4 tablespoons butter, light brown sugar, granulated sugar, salt, heavy cream and corn syrup to a 2 quart or larger heavy bottom sauce pot with a candy thermometer attached and bring to a boil over high heat.
Whisk the mixture to dissolve the sugar then allow it to continue to cook until it reaches firm ball stage, 246 degrees °F, for about 3 minutes.
Remove from the heat and allow it to cool, undisturbed, for 4 minutes.
Add the pecans and vanilla to the pot and using a wooden spoon, beat the mixture vigorously until thickened and the nuts are suspended, about 2 minutes. Working as quickly as you can, portion the pralines with the greased spoon onto the prepared pan. Allow the pralines to cool completely before serving.
Place stale bread in a bowl with milk and squeeze the bread with your hand until well saturated with milk.
With an electric mixer on high speed in a separate bowl, beat eggs with sugar until thick and pale. Stir in the vanilla, cinnamon, nutmeg, butter and raisins to the egg mixture. Add the soaked bread crumbs to the egg mixture and stir well. Let stand for 10 minutes. It is important to allow enough time for the bread to absorb the egg mixture or the bread crumbs will float to the top during baking, leaving a layer of custard on the bottom of the dish.
Transfer the mixture to a greased baking dish. Bake until firm, or until a knife inserted in the middle comes out clean, about 45 to 50 minutes. Let it slightly cool in the dish.
Meanwhile, near the end of the baking time, make the sauce. With an electric mixer, beat egg yolks until thick and pale.
In a saucepan, melt the butter and sugar. Pour the butter and sugar mixture over the egg yolks, beating constantly with the mixer, until well thickened.
Stir in bourbon by hand. Serve the pudding warm with vanilla ice cream if desired. Pass the hot bourbon sauce separately.
Bring water to a boil. Add salt and pepper. Add grits and cook until water is absorbed, about 20 to 25 minutes. Remove from heat and stir in butter and cheese.
Rinse shrimp and pat dry. Fry the bacon in a large skillet until browned; drain well. In grease, add shrimp. Cook until shrimp turns pink. Add lemon juice, chopped bacon, parsley, scallions and garlic. Sauté for 3 minutes.
Spoon grits into a serving bowl. Add shrimp mixture and mix well. Serve immediately.